We haven’t gotten knee deep into wedding planning just yet but we’re getting close. I’ve been on the other side of planning weddings for a long time and now that my daughter is getting married I get to see if from a different point of view. So far there has been one dress fitting with another scheduled soon, and one trip to a florist that wasn’t very inspiring. However, Charisse did visit another florist and came away very pleased. As she was looking through the books the florist told her that nowadays brides are choosing from Pinterest rather than catalogs. All Charisse had to do was bring up her boards on her Smartphone. Cross that one off the list.
For many years she has told me that I wasn’t going to do anything for her wedding other than to just be the mother of the bride. We both had visions of us drinking champagne and getting mani and pedis. When our sons were married I made their cakes, granted their shindigs were smaller and more informal than what Charisse and her fiancée are planning. Then came the reality check in the form of how much even a modest wedding can cost. It was somewhat of a let down to find out that the cake of her dreams would cost $4.00 a slice for a buttercream iced creation.
With a preliminary guest list of 300 I’ll let you do the math on the cost of a cake from her preferred (other then me of course :)) source. Our thinking now is to order a small tiered cake for show and pictures and have several sheet and or dessert cakes at the venue to be cut and served by the staff. We will make those cakes the week before and freeze them. Wrapped properly, they will be fine on the day of. Our oldest daughter who also has a way with all things sugar will be home and baking with me. That’s as close as I’ll get to being the cake lady for her wedding. We’ll see how that pans out.
The bride to be also decided to have a coordinator for the day before to run the rehearsal and to manage everything the day of. We can handle everything else up to that point, I think. We’re also on the second color palette. Now it is coral and turquoise. Her initial choice was jewel tones but that wasn’t quite appropriate for a summer wedding. The collage pictured gives you an idea of the colors we are going for. Don’t you love how I keep saying, “we”? I’m doing my best to not be super opinionated about what they should or shouldn’t do/have. So far, so good.
Today’s couples have so much information available on the web and wedding inspiration is right at their fingertips. This can be a good and bad thing. The more choices you have the more confusing and overwhelmed you can be.
Did you know that there are cake designer apps available? Oh my gosh the times have changed! Once upon a time brides-to-be came to see you with pictures torn from the few bride magazines that were available. Nowadays wedding cakes are more like works of art and are complete show pieces. Add to that shows like Platinum Weddings and David Tutera’s My Fair Wedding and expectations are through the roof.
Call me old fashioned but spending a million dollars for a wedding is way over the top. Being saddled with debt from your mega wedding is not the best way to begin a marriage. I’m certainly not bashing anyone who chooses to do so and if someone came to me with a limitless budget I’d do my best to give them what they want.
Setting a budget, realistic expectations and planning ahead are keys to a memorable and stress free celebration. Baby girl’s wedding is July 18, 2015 so we still have lots of time. Wish us luck and I’ll keep you posted along the way!
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